We are adopting. What a crazy sentence that still is to me. I have always had this thought in my mind that maybe someday we would think about it, but now it is real life. So how did this all happen you may ask. Let’s rewind about 6 months.
We decided with our little one getting older it was time to start thinking about adding to our family. After a few months of negative pregnancy tests, I started getting bummed out and thought maybe we should just adopt. Little did I know that thought would continue to linger in my mind. A few weeks before Thanksgiving we were sitting in church talking about the “Feed One” campaign where you could donate $10 a month to feed a child. At the beginning of our service, I was sitting in worship just asking God to give me a sign if we were to look at adopting. Then at the end of the message, our Lead Pastor, Josh, spoke about adoption and how many children are sitting in the foster care/adoption system. He talked about how God is the father to the fatherless and it struck me, we needed to do something about this.
That afternoon, my husband and I took a road trip together and talked briefly about it. I asked him if the message made him think any more about adoption and he said yes, but he still wasn’t sure. Fast forward just a little and we were having lunch at home with our kids eating Wendy’s and I could tell my husband wasn’t paying any attention. Once I finally got him to talk, he realized while he was zoned out he was thinking adoption and then immediately looked at his Wendy’s cup, when I had his attention, which had a story about a girl who was adopted.
A few weeks later, we would be going to Fargo for a business trip and I had this thought that maybe we should visit with an adoption agency out there just to answer some questions. I wasn’t really sure what kind of questions we had, but I thought maybe this would just open our eyes to what we needed to do. After talking with them on a Thursday, my husband and I didn’t really talk much more about it until Sunday although I did start filling out some of the paperwork on the way home from Fargo.
Sunday evening I found out I wasn’t expecting again and decided to finish filling our paperwork out. I looked at my husband and asked if he was really on board with this whole idea and that’s when I realized that God had spoke to him. He started to tell me about a show he watched on Netflix a few nights before called, “The Dropbox.” He said that he was looking for a documentary and could have picked anything on Netflix, but ended up on this show not knowing anything about it. The premise of the movie is about a pastor in South Korea who was sick of seeing mother’s abandoning their babies on the cold streets and finding babies who had not made it and decided he needed to do something about it. He built a dropbox in his church where moms could anonymously leave their babies safely and then an alarm would go off to let the workers know a baby had been left. Like what he was doing wasn’t enough already, the Pastor adopted multiple children, some even with special needs
My husband said that this story recked him and he knew it was time to adopt. He realized that God was speaking to him through different avenues to show His plan for our family. We finished the paperwork that week and sent it off in the mail the week before Christmas thinking that we would hear of our approval after the New Year.
Christmas Eve came and we spent the day at my parents house. We decided that we were going to tell our families at Christmas that we were beginning the process of adoption. My husband surprised me with a necklace that says “Always in my heart, someday in my arms. We told my family that evening (although my mom and sister already knew) and everyone was really excited for us. After spending a great day/evening with my family, we packed up our little ones to go home and grabbed the mail in the mailbox. I flipped through the envelopes and saw a letter from the adoption agency. We had been accepted!!!! Best Christmas present ever.
So here we are beginning the process. Our next step is to attend a group meeting in Fargo on February 26 and then the home study process begins. We will be doing a domestic newborn adoption. I am so excited for this process and can say right now I have no anxiety or fear about it. I know that it will not always go smoothly throughout, but I know that the end product is to have another beautiful baby in our arms. We are praying not only for baby, but for the baby’s biological parents as they have a huge decision to make about such a precious little bundle.
We would appreciate any and all prayers throughout this process as it is uncharted territory for us. I know that with God on our side, we will make it through this entire process. We look forward to sharing our journey with you!!